Roll tide.........war eagle........I hear I have to pick a side.

So, we moved to Alabama. I know this state is serious about college sports. But which one do you pick! I grew up in Connecticut. Always have been a Huskies girl.....but.....well........now I am in Roll Tide vs. Tigers land. What do I pick!

I mean usually I do stats and numbers and figure it out but, really it is hard to decide. How do I figure out who is king around here. I have found out it is a bad idea to call the wrong one. Last year we got to go to a game that Auburn was at they are serious about their team. Like majorly serious. So I am not ready to join a side yet but I would love some imput. More than just ROLL TIDE or WAR EAGLES. I want to hear what make the team a better team. What do I need to know about their history. Tell me the info! Lets go!

Don't break your children!

Why do parents feel that teaching their children lies about their other parent wins? Ok so you don't like your ex. I don't either. But, I never spoke a bad word about him in front of my children. There are so many people who don't work out. It became the norm for so many years. Do you know what talking bad about another parent breaks down your child. People have told them oh you have your dad's nose or your moms eyes. Well great if dad says that mom is a bad person......you have her eyes..then you are a bad person.

I remember being a child. I grew up away from both parents. I wasn't told a lot of bad things about my parents but I was told some bad things. My grandmother told me my mom was a liar. She told me that her mother was a liar as well. That they couldn't help it they just lied about everything. To this day I can't lie. I get so uncomfortable I will tell whoever I am trying to lie to that I am lying within a few minutes. I hate people who lie and I won't stand for it in my life. It created an obsession to me. If I don't like then I am not like them. I am not bad. Ok well yeah lying is a bad thing, but I mean there are times you need to and I can't. IE: Surprise party. I avoid that person until the party. I don't want to lie to them.

Recently I spoke with someone that I haven't talked to in years. I moved away from CT years ago. January of 2008 to be precise. I found out that right after I left he was accused of sexually molesting his daughters by his ex. Ok so, is anyone capable of this yes. Absolutely, but here is what I know. During the time this was supposedly happening, she wasn't letting him see the kids. They were also too busy to see him. I also know that during this time she was going to the bars A LOT and she was also dating random men and bringing those kids to their house with her when I (yes I) wouldn't be able to watch them. I cancelled more plans than anything to watch those girls so she wouldn't traipse them around to some other guys house afraid for exactly that situation. So, if you ask me if I think that the girls were molested by someone. Probably. Do I think it was their dad. Probably not. She had multiple boyfriends over that period and I can't say how many times she didn't call me to baby sit. I should admit that about 4 months before I moved the two of us stopped talking. You see there were other issues that made me other protective of these girls.

I had heard recently that she had been seen at a party doing coke. She is a recovering addict. So when I heard she was seen doing it. I definitely approached her. I was fearful she would lose her girls to state services. Do you know she looked right at me and said so what I don't do it when they are around. I called her mom and left messages trying to get help for her but got no responses. She probably was deleting the messages. When I said I was going to call DCF I was threatened. Period. Not dealing with that. I made sure other people knew what was going on and did not risk my children being taken over her lies. I had seen it happen too many times. Families that have done nothing wrong encounter a good liar and poof their kids are gone.

I am heartbroken and have been since I heard the stories. But I am more heartbroken that these girls are still in counseling and one of them even has said their mom told them what to say. They are now teenagers and they know right from wrong. One of them has a good head on her shoulders and was old enough to know reality from their mothers lies but the other one she was too little and she only remembers what she was told an she is so confused right now being told different stories by her sister as her sister is trying to break free. It sucks completely. She wanted the girls all to herself she said that many times but this was NOT the way to do it.

I sincerely hope as parents you realize that yes you may get control over the children and you may not have to deal with your ex any more, but dang it what about the children affected by your lies? Lying. Horrible thing.

New Year New Beginnings.........seriously.

Yes, I have tried blogging in the past. I never could figure out what my niche would be or how I could possibly draw people to my page. I was so concerned with having the best blog that it got overwhelming. I finally walked away. Took a year off and figured something out. Reality is. My life is nuts! Absolutely crazy! Let me in on the craziness of my life:

I am a mom of two grown kids but I'm only 40. What? How did that happen! My daughter is in college. My son is in the US Army. Ok great now add on Military Mom stress. Fun! Got married to a wonderful guy last year...had to move it up because guess what his plant announced it was closing and he could be jobless as soon as September. So our October wedding was moved up to August...but I pulled that together. And then....we found out no he wouldn't lose his job but we had to move from Illinois to the Gulf Shores of Alabama! Plus no winter! Well sort of no winter. But still leaving every family member and friend we have far behind has been a bit of a troubling decision for us. But we did it. Our first full day in Alabama was the last day of 2014.

What did I learn in 2014. People you love won't always love you back. NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU TRY WHEN YOU PLAN SOMETHING WILL FALL APART! Yes i did capitalize that for a reason. And over all, if you can drive 12 hours with family and not kill each other you rock as a family! Seriously though. An over loaded vehicle and three people all getting hungry needing to pee and needing to sleep. Trying.

I know next year our new home is going to puke of Christmas because we didn't have one this year. Mainly because it was all in storage waiting for our move. We close on our house soon so this whole corporate living thing shouldn't be more than a couple of weeks. But here we sit in Daphne, AL. Enjoying amazing weather. OK maybe locals think it is cool. It has been in the 40s and 50s since we got here.....but back home where we came from.....it has been in the teens and twentys.......so its nice. :O) Saturday I hear in the 70s woot woot. I feel the beach coming on.

So what will this blog be about. Honestly, I have no idea. I am not making any promises that I won't vent on here.....I am not promising that I won't talk about stuff that I feel is important that you may think is dumb. But at the end of the day, this is my spot. And hey if you find some useful information then great.

I know one thing for sure....definitely will be a lot of pinterest recipes and projects on here. As we are buying a house, and on a budget I am quite certain we will be having some great diy projects occurring. (maybe not right this moment, read above we are in temporary housing.